Trigger warning: child sexual abuse
HBO’s “Quiet on set: The Dark Side of Kids TV” put the topic of child sex abuse into the spotlight. During which they discuss how this happened: a toxic work environment, kids who were harmed, and how some repeated the cycle. In the counseling realm it has become a springboard for conversations around abuse and neglect that individuals have experienced.
Child sexual abuse and incest in rampant in this country – It isn’t only in Hollywood. According to the CDC 1 in 7 kids experienced abuse or neglect over the last year.
According to the CDC here are some risk factors for abuse and neglect to occur:
– A child being under the age of 4
– Having a caregiver who is struggling with mental health issues including substance use
– Kids with special needs who may struggle with social interactions or have trouble communicating
– Low income families and communities with few resources
– Low interest in the children’s wellbeing
– Having parents who are often away from home
– Having a family who is isolated, disconnected or fractured
– Using corporal punishment or adults who justify aggression or violence (especially toward minors)
– Non-family or blood related caregivers
– Living in a high conflict homes
– Having intense differences in family power dynamics
– Having experienced abuse or neglect and have not sought help
– Lack of child supervision
Prevention:
– Teaching children the anatomical names for their body parts, so if they have to report they are able to give a detailed description
– Discussing body safety / boundaries and saying”no” early and often
– Listen to children if they tell you someone is making them uncomfortable, and believe them. Don’t make them hug or kiss someone they don’t want to
– Encourage children to talk to you if something is wrong. Listen don’t judge
– Tell them we don’t keep secrets, and anyone encouraging you to is a red flag
– Teach your children online safety. Discuss early and often
If you notice behavioral changes ask questions:
– Anger or hostility
– Depression or anxiety
– Change in sleep or eating patterns
– Change in the way they carry themselves
– Change in performance at school
– Self-harming behaviors
– Bed wetting
– Bleeding from genitals
– Inappropriate sexual behavior with other children (kids process through play)
– If you are noticing these changes check in with the adults your child comes into contact with, your child’s doctor and possibly a child therapist
Child abuse and neglect is a national problem. Systematic changes that would protect kids:
– Strengthen supports for families in all communities
– Childcare that is safe, affordable and accredited
– Assistance for families who are struggling and stressed
Report child abuse. As hard as it can be to report someone you know or love, the cycle will continue. Your child’s protection is the most important thing. You can call 1-800-392-3738 to report
Experiencing abuse and/or neglect at any age can impact our relationship with ourselves, others and quality of life. Please seek help. The counselors at Sonder are here to help. Call or email today.
References for this article:
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/child-abuse/symptoms-causes/syc-20370864
https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/childabuseandneglect/fastfact.html