The Sonder Blog
Happy Pride Month!
by James Ahearn (He/Him), JD, LPC, NCC Pride Month often gets framed as celebration, visibility, or advocacy. And it is all of those things. But in therapy, pride carries another meaning as well: psychological permission. Permission to exist without apology....
Our Actions Don’t Define Us
By: James Ahearn, JD, LPC, NCC We Are Not Our Actions, But Our Actions Tell a Story There’s a subtle but persistent belief many people carry: I am what I do. It shows up in the way we judge ourselves after a mistake, in the way we defend our choices, and in the way we...
Control vs. Influence: The Shift That Calms the Nervous System
By: James Ahearn, JD, LPC, NCC There’s a tension most of us carry: the harsh belief that if we just try hard enough, think clearly enough, or plan thoroughly enough, we can control what happens next and dodge the discomfort of that perceived outcome. Control promises...